All rise… being a P4J judge

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The winner has been announced for Revenge of Eve’s Photos 4 Journals (P4J) competition!  You can find out who on the Revenge of Eve P4J winner post.

It was pretty darn exciting to be asked to be a judge in the Photos 4 Journals (P4J) competition.  Every week, I got an email from the lovely Candace at Revenge of Eve with your amazing submissions for the week.  Each week I thought damn, how on earth am I going to narrow down my picks?  The judging criteria, i.e. the photo that evoked strong emotion, was very subjective, and how do I even begin to trust my subjective?  I’m glad I didn’t know who had submitted each photo, because who needs complications with an already difficult decision?

Candace has said that we judges will be getting some stationary goodies from her Not Your Average Chick passion project.  How often does a judge get to be a winner at the same time? Super cool!  Photos to come when I get that special something in the mail…


G2K: Get 2 Know

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It’s Get 2 Know (G2K) time at Revenge of Eve.  Here are my answers to this week’s questions; I’m in the middle of languishing in unhealthy coping strategies, and the answers reflect that.

  1. If you could change one thing in your life, what would you change?  I would live in a yurt, with a pet yak for a cuddle bunny.
  2. Who would benefit from such change?  Mostly me and the yurt, but the sunshine of our love would spread over the whole yurt-ing community.
  3. Are there steps you can take to make this change happen?  1) Buy plane ticket to Kyrgyzstan.  2)  Purchase yurt.  Somehow I’m guessing this isn’t available on a realtor’s website.  3) Adopt a yak.  I’m not sure if I can just track down a wild one and win it over with my fabulous personality; that will require some research.
  4. How does this impact your life? (The thing you want to change)  In every way, I would think.
  5. How would your life be different from what it is today if this change occurred?  No more work.  No more stress.  No more nights all alone.  Just me and the yak, making sweet non-sexual love.


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20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip‘s quick fire round 7:

  • Are eyebrows considered facial hair or just surplus eye hair?  They’re ear hair that’s gone for a walk.
  • If a kid refuses to sleep during nap time, are they guilty of resisting a rest?  Groan…  They’re a pain in the ass is what they are.
  • She sells sea shells by the sea shore, has anyone asked why yet?  Everyone realizes she’s dumb for thinking people will pay for shit they can just pick up for free.
  • If glassblowers inhale do they get a pane in the stomach?  Groan again…  No, they get a snow globe the have to squeeze out their butt.
  • Why does the Easter bunny carry eggs? Rabbits don’t lay eggs.  What kind of rabbits are you looking at?
  • What disease did cured ham actually have?  Genital warts.  They were transmitted from a warthog.  (yup, groan again!)
  • Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars, but check when you say the paint is wet?  They don’t actually believe you about the stars, but it’s too much bother to try to prove to you that you’re a doofus.
  • Why do people keep running over a thread a dozen times with their vacuum cleaner, then reach down, pick it up, examine it, then put it down to give the vacuum one more chance?  Well at least now I know I’m not the only one!
  • If you met a vampire, would you let it bite you for eternal life or would you shove a stake in its heart?  Depends if it was Jacob or Edward.
  • Are you more of a hunter or a gatherer?  If I lived in a hunter-gatherer society I would quickly starve unless I could find someone to bribe with sexual favours.
  • Have you ever tried to contact a spirit with an Ouija Board?  No but I have cheated while playing with a Ouija board.
  • If you were a box of cereal, what would you be and why?  All Bran because then I’d always be regular.  But it’s gotta be the All Bran Buds – regular All Bran is just yucky.
  • Have you ever seen a ghost, a spaceship, or anything else you couldn’t rationally explain?  I’ve seen people doing stupid things… does that count?
  • Would you rather fight 1 elephant sized duck or a 100 duck sized elephants?  Ducks can be mean buggers if you get them riled up, so I’d go with the elephants.
  • If l gave you a 1000 dollars, pounds or a currency of your choice how would you double it in 24 hours?  I only need 5 minutes – I’ll go to the bank, withdraw $1000, and boom, I’ve got myself $2000.
  • Ok, you have woken up groggy eyed and worse for wear and find a giraffe in your kitchen, what are you going to do?  I would give it a snuggle and ask it to take me on a ride around the neighbourhood to show off.


Answers please on the flipside of the flip side of the reverse side of a doubled sided coin …  You can only see that side if you look through a one-way two-way mirror.


Questions from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip quick fire round 8:

  • What’s your philosophy in life?  Guinea pigs make everything better.
  • Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?  Introvert all the way baby.
  • What was the best phase in your life?  While I was doing my first university degree.  I had so much fun during those years.
  • When younger, you had a dream job, what was it?  I don’t remember what I wanted to be when I was very young, but I know that when high school rolled around I wanted to be a cardiologist.  Why, I really don’t know.
  • Did you get close you your dream job of young, now that you are grown up?  Right now I’m in my current dream career.
  • What’s more important to you – looks, brains or humour?  That’s a complicated question.  What are we talking about?  A friend?  A life partner?  I value intelligence, I enjoy a quirky sense of humour, and if we’re talking romantic partner physical attraction is a must (although what is attractive to me does not necessarily correspond with what is generally considered good looks).
  • What’s the best age for marriage?  Whatever age at which someone happens to be mature and finds the right person.
  • If you have children in your life [be they yours or family/friends] what advice do you give them if any about when they are older?  Use condoms.
  • Do you ever stay friendly with exes?  Yes, although as a general rule I’d say it probably doesn’t work that well.
  • What’s an ideal weekend for you?  Hanging out at home with the guinea pigs.
  • What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?  I had a one-night(ish) stand with an Aussie I met in Turkey when I was in my early 20’s.  It was irresponsible and fun, but the only thing I would change is him giving me mononucleosis (yup, the “kissing disease”).
  • Ok, so you are nearing the end of your days – and you offered to live your life once more but are allowed three changes – would you accept those changes or live your life the same way again?  Is none of the above an option?  Once is enough!
  • If you chose those three changes what would they be?  One yurt, one yak, and one me, all combined into one happy little love nest.
  • When you are enjoying some ‘alone time’, what do you think of?  Guinea pigs.  But somehow the ‘alone time’ in quotes seems suggestive of autoerotic activity.
  • What are your top 5 movies to date?  Dirty Dancing, Top Gun, Girls Just Want to Have Fun, Sixteen Candles, and Can’t Buy Me Love.  Gotta love the 80’s.
  • Fess up, we all like some routine and order to our lives, what can you NOT go a day without doing?  Multiple cups of tea in the morning.  With milk, no sugar.
  • What’s the most exciting thing to have happened this year?  I’m more inclined to ask has anything exciting happened this year?
  • Did you ever play Battleship the game as a kid or for that matter maybe even now?  I’m fairly certain I played it back in the day; that may just be a fabricated memory, but it was definitely popular back when I was a kid.


Answers please on the third skin of a banana please using pixie dust and egg!  That sounds a little too R-rated for me!


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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3.2.1 Quote me!

Beckie of Beckie’s Mental Mess tagged for for A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip’s 3.2.1 Quote me game, on the topic of greetings.


“Don’t tell your friends about your indigestion. ‘How are you’ is a greeting, not a question.” – Arthur Guiterman

Oh, and they don’t want to know about your mental illness either…  Perhaps we just need to permanently remove the question mark from “how are you?”


“A hat should be taken off when you greet a lady and left off for the rest of your life. Nothing looks more stupid than a hat.” – P.J. O’Rourke

I have a feeling this was what he may have had in mind:



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3.2.1 Quote me

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Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip tagged me for his game 3.2.1 Quote me.  The topic this time around is balance.  Both of these quotes seem quite relevant to my life.


“Perhaps there could be no joy on this planet without an equal weight of pain to balance it out on some unknown scale.” – Stephenie Meyer


“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices.” – Betsy Jacobson

20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip:

  1. What was the weirdest conversation you have overheard?  Hmm, a specific example isn’t coming to mind, but I’ve had a lot of very psychotic patients who’ve had some pretty bizarre conversations with their voices.
  2. If you could be any age [not your current] for a full 7 days, what age would it be and for goodness sake why?  I think 4 is a good age.  Old enough to be aware, but young enough that life is simple and you can just watch Mr. Dressup, Care Bears, and She-Ra Princess of Power all day.
  3. Do you believe in the paranormal, if so why and if not why, and if sitting on the fence – yep you guessed it … why?  Well, I don’t really believe in normal, so pretty much any altered version of normal is A-ok.
  4. If you had a brainwashing machine who would you use it on specifically and why?  Myself to make me believe I’m She-Ra!
  5. What is the strangest, oddest, wierdest or just down right stupidest thing you have ever eaten?  I’m not sure if this is the strangest thing, but a strange eating experience was eating snail soup for breakfast squatting on a sidewalk in Hanoi, Vietnam.
  6. What is your most favourite of all time joke?  I’ve just wasted a substantial portion of my life browsing around on Google to come up with an answer to this, and I think it’s time to call this one a fail and move on.
  7. What food would be the best to make a house out of – discuss and explain your logic?  Overcooked turkey legs – do you realize how tough those babies are?  That house could withstand anything.
  8. Which of my 12 nominees is willing to take part in the Mystery Challenge question of this nomination and which of the 12 is willing to answer the Mystery Challenge Question?  My guinea pig Casper is always up for some play.  She’ll chase you around in circles smelling your bum until you give her the answer.
  9. If you could have a choice of window types and styles in front of your toilet, what would you pick? [You know, where you could sit and watch sort of thing]  Well, not too long ago Rory wanted answers to questions on the back of a 2-way mirror, and I was puzzled by a 2-way and a 1-way mirror being the same thing… Anyway, so I’d pick one of those babies, as long as it was a 2-way mirror/window in name only and really functioned as a 1-way.  Is that wordy enough for you?
  10. You have just bumped into an alien from the planet Jupiter and you say what?  It would depend on the alien’s level of attractiveness, but perhaps something along the lines of “hey baby, you’re outta this world” (accompanied by a little lean forward to show off some cleavage).  Hey, desperate times call for desperate measures…
  11. Of all your behaviours/traits – which one has landed you into the most hot water or trouble?  Not being able to keep my mouth shut when I think something is being done in a way that is unfair/wrong/illogical/etc.


Questions from Life is too short just lick the spoon:

  1. If you could sell years from your life with ten thousand dollars each, you many years would you sell and why?  I would sell the last 15 or so years, and then I’d be in my early 20’s with some money in the bank, which I think would work out very nicely.
  2. If you have all the money from the world, how would a perfect day look for you?  Sitting on the terrace at a chateau in Provence eating very expensive cheese and sipping very expensive wine
  3. What is your biggest flaw?  I could dwell on this for the same epic amount of time spent on question #6 from Rory, but instead I’ll throw in the towel and move on tout de suite (or toot-sweet for the non-French-spelling-inclined).
  4. What is your happiest memory?  Something simple from childhood – maybe doing cartwheels back in the day when cartwheels were easy rather than requiring the assistance of a crane.
  5. If you could go back in time and change one thing about your past, what would you change and why?  I plead the fifth.
  6. If you would try to describe yourself with only a sentence, what would that be?  Geeky crazy guinea pig lady.
  7. How many friends do you think you have and why do you consider those people to be friends?  I only have one in-person friend these days, which is an improvement from zero so probably worth hanging onto.
  8. What is the most unique thing about you?  I’ll have to go with the same as #6, geeky crazy guinea pig lady.
  9. In your opinion, which being on this Earth is the most interesting and why?  The yak.  Because it will keep me company on long winter nights in the yurt in Kyrgyzstan.
  10. Imagine you have the power to create anything, what is the first thing you would create and why?  Aerosolized empathy spray-bombed all over the world.  The second would be aerosolized intelligence.
  11. Imagine you could erase anything in this world, what would you erase and why?  Ignorance, because I think it’s at the root of a lot of the world’s problems.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂

Questions from Have You Ever Noticed?

  1. What is one dish you like to cook?  In the summer I like to bbq burgers, and in cool weather I like things that hang out in the oven for a while making yummy smells, like chili.
  2.  How would you describe your favorite pair of shoes?  I’m a big fan of ballet flats.  Comfort is a good thing.
  3. What is the best thing that you did last week?  Cuddle with the guinea pigs.
  4. If you could have lunch with one author (living or dead) who would it be and why?  Either Lucy Maud Montgomery or Laura Ingalls Wilder, because both played a significant role in my childhood.
  5.  What kind of snack do your like to add to your ice cream?  Reese’s peanut butter cups, preferable in the form of a Reese’s Blizzard from Dairy Queen.
  6.  If you could return to any decade, and visit a movie set, which would you like to see and why?  Oh Dirty Dancing, definitely, and I’d want to join in and do a little bumpin’ and grindin’.  Preferably with Patrick Swayze, but beggars can’t be choosers, right?
  7. What is a song that makes you smile?  I Like Big Butts, because really, who doesn’t?
  8. What advice would you give to your younger self?  Embrace new things.
  9. What is one food you just can’t eat?  I think olives are gross and smell like manure.
  10. If you can earn a gold medal in any sport, what would it be and why?  Is there a guinea pig version of equestrian sports?
  11. What is something you wish you could add to your blog and why?  Videos of my guinea pigs being their cute little selves, but I’m too cheap to pay for the monthly WordPress plan to post videos.  Yeah, I could put them on Youtube and embed the Youtube videos on my blog, but besides being cheap I’m also lazy.


Questions from Jenn at Reclaiming My Sanity:

  • How did you start your blog?  I was quite depressed, and I was bored because I wasn’t working and wasn’t socializing.  It started off as mostly something to do with my time but quickly grew into something that was really important to me.
  • What advice would you give to new bloggers? Take advantage of the amazing mental health blogging community and interact with other bloggers.


Questions from Ida at Around the Ward in 80 Days:

  1. What has blogging brought into your life?  The biggest thing is that it’s brought human contact.  I just haven’t been able to maintain my in-person friendships, so having this online community has been really valuable.
  2. Is there something you’d like to change about your blog?  I guess this is less about the blog and more about WordPress, but I’d get rid of the stats, because they can get distracting in a not-so-good way sometimes.
  3. If you write about mental health, how do you feel about sharing such an intimate part of yourself?  It’s interesting, on my blog is where I’m most comfortable sharing that part of myself.  I don’t trust people in my “real life” enough to share this much.
  4. What would be your dream collaboration?  This would be more antagonism than collaboration, but I would like to interview L. Ron Hubbard about his anti-psychiatry views.
  5. One thing you’d do when if you’d rule the world?  Throw all the mean and nasty people on an island to torment each other and leave the rest of us alone.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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3.2.1 Quote Me!

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Thanks to Bipolar Barb and Beckie’s Mental Mess who’ve tagged me for A Guy Called Bloke‘s 3.2.1 Quote Me game for the topic of change.  You can find the rules (which I haven’t really followed) on their posts.


“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Rob Siltanen


“One child, one teacher, one book, one pen can change the world.” – Malala Yousafzai

G2K – Get 2 Know me

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It’s G2K (Get 2 Know) day over at Revenge of Eve, a series of questions intended to bring the reader closer to their favorite bloggers.  This week’s questions:

  1. How would you say others perceive you?  Confident or insecure?  I think generally people perceive me as fairly confident.
  2. Are you confident or insecure?  I don’t know that I have an easy answer to this.  I’m confident in myself and my abilities when I’m well, but when I’m depressed I felt insecure about my limitations compared to when I’m well.
  3. If your answers to 1 & 2 are opposite, define your behaviors that make this so.  I tend to avoid the types of situations in which I would feel most insecure, so people don’t necessarily see that side of me often.
  4. Who do you attribute your confidence or low self-esteem to?  The insecurity comes from my illness, and the confidence probably comes from my parents.
  5. Write them a note in 20 words or less expressing your gratitude or feelings of injustice.  Mom and Dad, thank you for always believing in me.


How to participate:

  • Create a post and title it G2K
  • Use the tag #g2k
  • Create a pingback to this post to notify me of your participation
  • Answer questions honestly

Quotes from bloggers

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I have a section in my journal where I write down some of the lines other bloggers write that grab my attention.  Here’s a selection:

“First I need to get to know you more before you start to finger me” – My Inner MishMash

“Nothing better than killing two pterodactyls with one boulder” – Bella’s Babbles

“They feel like you’ve overstayed your welcome at the pity party” – Ease the Ride

“Just because your ass is numb and you feel fine doesn’t mean that sitting on the tack is good for you” – Laina Eartharcher

“I wonder if the folks who say [happiness is a choice] know that I also think them not choosing to undergo emergency cranial rectal extraction – when they so obviously need it – is a choice I blame them for” – Lavender and Levity

“I tend to judge people on their personal merits, so if you’re an asshole, you’re an international asshole” – Ultra Regret

“Don’t have a bucket list, fuck it list is huge” – Liz at Therapy Bits

“In living with mental illness, the mind, like a castle, has many defences.  We are the opposing army laying siege…  But as we make progress we become stronger and the walls become weaker.” – Blue Sky Days 365


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20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip:

  • Do you read question lists from the top, the bottom or from the middle first?  From the top because that takes the least effort.
  • Did you ask yourself why l asked you that first?  There wasn’t actually that much thinking going on in my brain.
  • If l didn’t want an answer for question 4 would you supply it anyway?  That depends if I’m in the mood.
  • Can you see what question 4 is yet?  Ha ha.
  • How many questions are asked on this nomination in total?  I don’t count beyond 3.
  • If there was one big question you wanted this list to ask of you, what would it be?  If you had a taxidermied animal, what would it be?
  • What would your answer be to that question?  A sheep.  And I would take it to bed with me.
  • I don’t want you to answer any of these questions with the exception of number 7 and maybe 11, ok?  Again, that comes back to counting beyond 3.
  • Who invented FAQ’s?  Some poor bugger who was ready to go postal on the next person who asked a dumbass question.
  • For this Liebster Award nomination who asked the 12th question?  The tooth fairy.
  • What was it, and more importantly of all the questions asked, how would you answer the 12th question found in question 2?  My sheep will handle that question for me.
  • Think about it numerically…  And now we’re counting sheep.  Goodnight!


Questions from Beckie’s Mental Mess:

  1. What is your favorite holiday, and why?  Christmas, because of the food.
  2. When you blog, where do you write from (examples: kitchen table, desk?)  Most often my bedroom.
  3. Do you ever experience writer’s block? If so, what do you do in order to work through it?   Yes but I make sure I’ve already got at least a week of scheduled posts so if I have non-writing days I can just ride it out until I get back in the swing of things.
  4. What was the highest point of your life?  I don’t know that there has been specific highest and lowest points in my life, so I’m going to go geographic with my answers.  La Paz, Bolivia.
  5. What was the lowest point of your life?  Going with the same theme as #4, the Dead Sea, Jordan.
  6. If you were to come back as an animal, what animal would that be and why?  A guinea pig, because their life is so simple (eat, poop, sleep, repeat).
  7. What is your favorite scent?  Salty ocean air.
  8. What was the last thing you ate today?  Chocolate chip cookie dough.  Classy all the way.
  9. If someone handed you 1 million dollars, what would you do with it?  Put it in the bank.  At this point security and stability is most important to me, and I’m okay with being boring.
  10. What famous person (Dead or Alive) would you want to meet, who would that be and why?  The Dalai Lama seems like a very wise and inspiring person.
  11. How do you want to be remembered?  I don’t necessarily want to be remembered.  After all, I’ll be dead, so it wouldn’t really matter if I was remembered or not.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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3.2.1 Quote Me!

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Thanks to Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip for tagging me for his 3.2.1 Quote Me game.  If you want to join in the fun, you can’t get this details on his post.  Today’s topic is boredom, and I decided to go with some quotes from BrainyQuote that left me thinking “huh?”


“Boredom is a fearsome prospect. There’s a limit to the number of cars and microwaves you can buy. What do you do then?” – J. G. Ballard

That’s when you get a snuggly llama (preferably one that doesn’t spit on you).


“Morality is a venereal disease. Its primary stage is called virtue; its secondary stage, boredom; its tertiary stage, syphilis.” – Karl Kraus

If boredom is sexually transmitted then I guess I’m safe!

G2K – Get 2 Know

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It’s G2K – Get 2 Know day over at Revenge of Eve.  I found this weeks questions very thought-provoking, and I had to chew them over in my head for a while before I came up with answers.  This week’s questions:

  1. In what areas of your do you find it hard, to be honest with yourself?  I sometimes allow myself to wallow in unhealthy thinking patterns and pretend that it’s just a temporary dip rather than getting sucked into mental quicksand.
  2. Have you put in an effort to change this or do you ignore it in hopes it disappears?  I guess I hope that I’ll learn from the past and grow out of it, but I don’t think it really works that way.
  3. How does this affect other areas of your life?  I can get so focused on whatever (or more often whoever) it is that I lose perspective on the bigger picture.
  4. Can you define the underline fear in regards to this?  If so, explain.  I’m not sure if it’s fear; I think it stems more from my tendency to rehearse interactions in my mind ahead of time, and then that ends up spiralling out of control.
  5. Do you find that you are more of an honest or dishonest person around others?  I used to be mostly.  Now I wouldn’t necessarily say I’m dishonest, but I’m quite guarded (except on my blog).

To participate:

  • Publish a post answering the above questions and title your post g2k
  • Use the tag #g2k
  • Create a pingback to this post
  • Answer each question honestly

20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip’s Quick Fire Round #6:

  • If you swallowed a complete ice cube, how long before it leaves the body as an ice cube again?  Until hell freezes over.
  • We are told that we cannot look at the sun directly, but is it therefore safe to look at an image of the sun with our naked eyes, 3 minutes after it is taken?  Eyes shouldn’t be naked – that’s just obscene.
  • If money doesn’t grow on trees, then why do banks have branches???  The money is stored in the hollow area the woodpecker has pecked out of the tree.
  • Mm, a real ponderer here, but if quizzes are quizzical, what are tests?  Well if we’re going to get grammatical, quizzical is an adjective, so my answer is testicular.
  • Why does Donald Duck wear a towel when he comes out of the shower when he doesn’t usually wear any pants?  Because he’s contemplating adding skirts to his wardrobe, and a towel works as a kind of trial run.
  • Why does it hurt like hell to hit your funny bone?  Because it’s only funny for the person who’s watching you do the dance of pain.
  • Why does does Goofy stand erect when Pluto is on all fours, are they not both dogs?  Standing erect should be reserved for X-rated viewing.
  • Remember Gilligans’ Island? So how is it the professor could make a radio out of  a coconut but not fix the hole in the Minnow???  It would take MacGyver to fix the Minnow.  The professor just isn’t quite at his level.
  • Why??? Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia is this so long considering what it means?  I know, right!!!!!
  • What colour is your toothbrush?  White and blue and I got it free from my dentist.  It’s against my religion to pay for toothbrushes.
  • What was your favourite toy growing up?  Hard to say, but I quite liked my Popple, plus I just enjoy the sound of Popple.
purple popple

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  • Three of your favourite movies?  Dirty Dancing, Top Gun, and Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.  Yep, that’s an 80’s theme you’re sensing.
  • If you could live somewhere else, where would you choose and why?  Kyrgyzstan in a yurt, and if you need to ask why, then there’s just no hope for you.
  • Everyone has a food they simply cannot eat for whatever reason, which is yours?  Olives.
  • Why?  Because I think they smell like manure.
  • If your life was to be made into a movie what genre would it slot into?  Is tedious a genre?

Answers please on the reverse side of the reverse side of the two way mirror!  I had to Google this, and it turns out a two way mirror is the same thing as a one way mirror.  Now please tell me how on earth that’s supposed to make any sense!  I feel like somewhere there’s an imaginary number involved…


Questions from Carol Anne at Therapy Bits:

1 what is the longest you’ve gone without sleep?  I’m not sure actually.
2 do you like ice cream? Yup.  Ben & Jerry’s peanut butter half baked please!
3 what is your favourite type of food?  Unhealthy!
4 are you a fast reader?  Pretty fast, I guess.  The problem these days is I can’t concentrate well enough to read much in one sitting.
5 what is your favourite kinda weather?  Sunny and low 20s Celsius.
6 do you have netflix?  My whole family uses my brother’s account.
7 are you glad to have the internet or could you do without it?  Without the internet I’d be even more of a hermit than I am now.  Blogging and Google are necessities, but social media I could do without.
8 do you own an amazon echo?  No.  Aside from my laptop and iPhone I’m fairly low-tech.  And I’m a bit suspicious of having a device in my home that’s listening to me.  I’ve got my iPhone set up so that I actually have to press a button to activate Siri, and I’ve got a sticker over the camera on my laptop.  Next up, tinfoil hat…
9 where do you see yourself in 5 years from now?  The guinea pigs knocked over my crystal ball and it broke, so I have no idea.
10 do you have a best friend?  I only have one in-person friend, so by process of elimination…
11 what is your favourite personality trait in your friends?  Genuineness.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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3.2.1 Quote Me

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Thanks to Rory from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip for tagging me for his 3.2.1 Quote Me game.  Today’s topic is experience.  If you want to join in, you can find the details on his post.


“Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.” – Aldous Huxley


“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted. And experience is often the most valuable thing you have to offer.” – Randy Pausch


And one more for good measure:

“Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.” – Rita Mae Brown

20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


First off, questions posed by Ida at Around the Ward In 80 Days:

  • What is your party trick?  Sneaking out very early because anything after 8pm is past my bedtime.
  • If you could play any instrument in the world, what would it be?  A bigass tuba (the inspiration for this comes from Katie at How I Killed Betty).
  • What would your perfect house look like?  It would be a cozy little cottage with built-in self-cleaning capacity.
  • Your dream job?  Nurse at a community mental health team.
  • An embarrassing thing you did as a child?  I was playing over at a friend’s house and I had to pee.  I didn’t know where the bathroom was in her house and for some reason didn’t feel comfortable asking, so I said I had to go home.  Only a short way into the walk home, I wet myself.  Lesson learned: just ask about the stupid bathroom.
  • What would be one piece of advice you’d give to your teenage self if you had the chance?  Don’t take things so seriously.
  • Describe your blog in one sentence.  It’s a mostly unfiltered written explosion of my thoughts on all things mental health-related.
  • Describe yourself in one sentence.  Imperfect and ok with that.
  • What are you scared of?  I recently did a post on just that here.
  • Tea or coffee?  Tea if I want to relax, coffee if I want to get going.
  • What three words would your mates use to describe you?  I’ve kicked pretty much all of my friends out of my life over the past couple of years, so probably nothing flattering!


Questions from Carol Anne at Therapy Bits:

  • If you won a million dollars, what would you do with it?  I’d save it.  A million sounds like so much, but it would barely get me a house in the city where I live.
  • Who is your hero?
  • Are you deathly afraid of anything?  I’m scared of things like not having enough money to support myself, but the physical thing I’m most scared of is spiders.  I’ve been able to overcome this to some extent when it comes to smaller ones, but with the big ones scare the living daylights out of e.
  • What is your favourite drink?  I drink a ton of water, but tea is also a must-have.
  • Do you prefer regular tv or netflicks?  I actually cancelled my regular tv service not too long ago because I was watching everything online.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format, along with assorted other question tags and the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip quick fire round 5:

  • What would you name your boat if you had one?  I’m going to borrow from Gilligan’s Island and pick the SS Minnow.
  • Ok, ok, the Internet has finally broken – what or who is responsible?  Donald Trump has a pee-pee tape with Kim Kardashian
  • Which fictional cartoon character would be the most BORING to meet in real life?  I’ve never watched Dora the Explorer, but she seems kind of bland.
  • Chocolate, strawberry or vanilla ice cream?  Vanilla.  I love chocolate in general, but chocolate ice cream just doesn’t really do it for me.  And neapolitan ice cream is just a crime against humanity.
  • Best purchase you have ever made?  My home.
  • Worst purchase you have ever made?  Probably clothes I never wore.
  • Why to both?  My home has almost doubled in value since I bought it 13 years ago.
  • 10 seconds to decide quickly … what body part could you afford to lose ?  Baby toe.
  • How did you choose that???  Because who even notices the baby toe anyway?
  • Who is the messiest person you know?  I don’t really know anyone any more, so I’d have to say the guinea pigs.
  • Who is the clumsiest person you know?  That would definitely be me
  • “Thinking out of the box” is the worst or the best quote society uses?
  • Odd or even socks or evenly odd?  My current dryer does not seem to be affiliated with the dryer monster, so even.
  • You have three wishes – what are they?  An end to world poverty.  An end to world cruelty.  An end to world stupidity.
  • Age old question – the zombies are coming, what is your choice weapon for survival?  A hookah pipe was the first thing that came to mind.  Not sure why, but maybe they’d like like to join me for a sheesha?
  • Right, the hard question … you must walk 5 miles southeast, and 9 miles north, 3 miles east, 2 miles west wearing one sneaker on your left foot and a high heel on your right foot, after travelling for 26 hours and 7 minutes what colour were the blue socks you were wearing once you hit the 7th hour?  The blue socks would be black thanks to the explosion of blood from my disintegrating foot/feet.
  • But more importantly how many miles did you walk the previous day?  I would walk 500 miles and I would walk 500 more….


More questions from A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip:

  • Are we truly alone in the Universe?  It seems pretty hard to believe that in this infinite yet expanding galaxy (still haven’t wrapped my head around how that works) there is no other life form.
  • Only 5% of the ocean is explored meaning that 95% is unchartered territory – so? What’s down at the bottom?  Really butt ugly fish, Rose’s necklace from the Titanic, and a partridge in a pear tree.
  • Will the governments ever truly allow a cure to be found for cancer?  It depends on whether the healthcare system is publicly or privately funded, i.e. whether cancer is a financial drain or good for business.
  • How can we solve the global population problem?  Provide women with access to an array of birth control options and empower them to use it.
  • Fountains of youth and magical elixirs don’t exist apparently – so the biggest mystery of all is could we or can we live forever?  I’m more inclined to think about the question of whether we would want to.  With my genes I have little hope of dying a natural death before age 90, and I’m really not happy about that.  I say bring on the aortic aneurysm at 70 (at the latest).


Questions from Javinder at Fun and Factz 4 U:

1. What you like to do in your free time?  Blog reading and writing.

2. Name of place which you like most?  Oh my, so hard to choose!  I think I’ll go with Paris, France.

3. What is your opinion on “God”?  Hmm, how to answer this briefly?  I guess I’d say that I am open to the possibility of a higher power.  However, I have significant concerns with organized religion, particularly since it seems to have caused (or been used as an excuse for) a lot of problems in this world.  I think faith can do a lot of good for people, but any time you have an organized body like a church telling people what to believe and what not to believe there’s the potential to run into problems.

4. If you get huge amount of money what you will do?  Save it to make sure I could support myself for the rest of my life.  And maybe go to Paris and eat some really good food.

5. Will you forgive someone who cheat on you?  I don’t think that’s something that I could predict.  I might be able to forgive someone who cheated in a state of mania or something like that for which they could get treatment.  Otherwise, I’m thinking most likely not.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any of all of the questions 🙂


Questions from Michele at The Hippy Chic:

  1.  Whom do you have in your day to day life that inspires you?  My grandma is 101 years old and hasn’t lost her sense of humor and cheery outlook on life.
  2. What crises has God pulled you through recently?  Well, I’m an atheist and God hasn’t made a guest appearance in my life up until this point, so I’m chugging along on my own.
  3. List 5 healthy coping strategies you have incorporated into your life that have replaced any bad habits or addictions?  Luckily I have never had to battle addictions.  For bad habits, I don’t know that I’ve found replacements; it’s more that I’ve just redirected my energy in other directions in general.
  4. What is your all time favorite band?  I’ve generally not been all the attached to specific band, so I’m going to go back to my childhood and say New Kids On The Block.  I was a Jordan Knight kind of girl, by the way.
  5. Are you happy?  Nope.
  6. What is your favorite movie and why?  Dirty Dancing.  I loved the dancing, and I wanted to be Baby and bump n grind with Patrick Swayze.
  7. If you could dine with your hero, who would that be?  I’m going to back to childhood again for a different hero, and say Raphael from Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.  I had a crush on him at the time, despite the fact that he wasn’t human, but that’s just a minor detail, right?
  8. How do you give back or pay it forward?  I’m not sure.  Maybe I just try to avoid back or forward.
  9. In what way does music impact your life?  I always listen to music when I’m driving, and it almost feels like it seals out the world.
  10. What gets you excited, or willing to rise every morning?  My guinea pigs expect to be fed.  If they hear me flopping around in bed they assume I’m awake and start squeaking away to get my attention.
  11. Do you consider yourself worthy of love and admiration?  Hmm, good question. At the core, yes, but I’ve got all these walls up that people would have to get through first.


Questions from Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip:

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Now these questions are supposed to be answered on the back of a dirty used sock, but I figure a stinky toe sticking out is close enough!  And on a side note, I think toenails are extremely ugly and are best hidden under nail polish.


1.. WhAt is the WEirDeSt thing about you?

I’m sure there are lots of things, but the thing that even my Grandma makes fun of me for is getting up around 3am every day just because.

2. If you had a choice to be haunted by a ghost, who would you pick and why?

I’m going to play it old school and pick Jacob Marley.  All those chains clanking around adds a certain je ne sais quoi.

3. Which cartoon character do you resemble the most??

I’m going to say She-Ra Princess of Power, just in case saying it might actually make it true.

4. Is there anything orange within 10 feet of you right now? WHAT???

There is an orange member of the pen family I use to spice up my journal.  A little further afield there’s some orange on my bookshelf but that’s about it.

5-8. John Belushi in Animal House 1978 is a classic, however if you haven’t seen it, nor care for it, well it isn’t! However the question IS have you ever been involved in a Food Fight?? Fess up, how, when , why?

Never seen Animal House, and don’t think I’ve ever been in a food fight.  Perhaps the closest I came was when I was 19ish and had a McDonald’s cheeseburger eating contest with a friend.  I conceded defeat at 6 because it felt like I’d consumed toxic amounts of salt, and she kicked my ass.

9. Have you figured it out yet and if so what is the point? That’s the question, not 2 B or not 2 B but the point?

I haven’t figured out much of anything, but perhaps if I guessed B2-B5 I might sink a battleship.  I also have absolutely no idea what the point is, so I’ll turn to the guinea pigs, whose emphatic answer would be vegetables.

10] Which was better, above or below and why? And if Neither, show us yours!

Cars, because it’s quirky.  But here’s the question, is he having sex in his car, and if so, what is the geometric layout?

11] What is the opposite to being scared of heights?

Being ensconced in a cozy cave with a guinea pig and a cup of tea.


That’s it for this week’s edition of 20(ish) questions.  Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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Revenge of eve G2K

It’s G2K (Get 2 Know) day over at Revenge of Eve.  Here are this week’s questions:

*Who is your hero?

My grandma

*What is their superpower?

Always keeping a positive attitude and a sense of humour.  She’s 101 and starting to dement, so she’s a bit disinhibited.  The last couple of years she’s started badmouthing her ex-husband (my grandpa) and how badly he treated her.  I think it’s awesome that she’s no longer bottling up all those emotions from so many years ago, and instead she’s just letting her rip.

*Where was your first kiss?

To be honest I don’t actually remember, although it wasn’t until I was around 19 or so.

*When was the first time you fell in love?

My first boyfriend.  I think I was 22 at the time.

*How did you know it was love?

He became my whole life.  Not the healthiest thing in the world, looking back.

*Why is love important?

The feeling of acceptance that goes along with love (or should, at least) is wonderful.

*Journal prompt: Write about your first love.

C was a bit of an ass.  We got along very well as friends, but rather than accepting me and my life he expected me to become more like him.  It took me a few years to realize that’s what was actually going on, but I’ve learned from him that I deserve to be with someone who accepts me 100% exactly the way I am.  I also learned that there is no room in my life for people who run in the other direction when I get sick.

A couple of years ago, I randomly bumped into him in a park after not seeing him for almost 10 years.  I was really unwell at the time, and barely able to string a coherent sentence together.  I made a half-assed attempt at polite small talk, but couldn’t manage it, and just turned and walked away.  My reaction bothered me because I hated the idea that he would think he had the power to upset me sufficiently so as to make me non-functional.  But such is life.

To participate:

  • Create a post answering the above questions.
  • Title your post G2K
  • Use the header image as your image.
  • Use #g2k in your post settings
  • Create a pingback linking you to this post.
  • Write the journal prompt in your private journal or on your post.

20(ish) Questions

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I’ve decided to take a bit of a break from blog awards, but when I’m nominated for awards I’ll answer the questions posed to me in this 20(ish) questions format.  I’ll also throw in assorted question tags ands the like.  Feel free to join in the fun with your own answers to any or all of the questions 🙂


Questions from A Guy Called Bloke and Doodlepip’s Adventures

  • How DO YOU fold a fitted sheet?  With a great many swear words.
  • What is REALLY meant by the phrase ‘Love is in the air?’  Aerosolized chlamydia perhaps?
  • What was the weirdest, strangest and most mysterious phone call you ever took or made?  I feel like I should have a good answer to this, but I don’t.  The other day I had a call show up on my call display as being from Malaysia.  That was pretty random, but I figured it was some kind of scam thing so didn’t answer.
  • This is a real mystery – would you rather be ugly as sin and live forever or look as attractively sexy as was possible, but die in a year?  I don’t want to live forever regardless, so I pick die in a year even if it was combined with ugly as sin.
  • Ok, ok, here’s the cliff hanger – you are offered £$/100,000 to eat a bowl of mixed bugs – you know crunchy mealworms, slimy earthworms, buzzing crickets, wrinkly woodlice and moist maggots and the list goes on – would you eat it and be richer or not?  I am going to do the world a favour and not pass on the pictorial adventure that Rory included in his post…  But anyway, no.  I’m not in sufficiently dire need of money that I could be convinced to go for that.

More from A Guy Called Bloke from round #4 of his quick fire series

  • What Makes Us, Us?  I think my guinea pigs would say it’s how we smell.
  • What’s the best thing to have happened in your day so far?  The sun is shining.
  • We say no regrets, but we all have them. is there something in your life that you regret not doing?  Too many to pick one.
  • Ok, the heroes are handing out super powers, what’ll you pick for yourself?  The ability to eat cheeseburgers and cheesecake frequently with no negative consequences.
  • Fess up, if walking down the street at night and people’s curtains are open and the house lights are on, do you take a furtive glance in?  Why furtive?  I’d say go for the full-on stare.
  • What is one word that defines your personality to a tee?  I would go for a tee-(shirt) that says Back The Fuck Off.  It’s more than one word, but I’m ok with that.
  • What is your biggest fear?  Being totally alone with no money and the only food option was the bowl of mixed bugs.
  • Age old question, but if the words you spoke appeared on your skin, would you say half the stuff you do?  I would probably say nothing at all, except perhaps expletives.
  • Ok, ok, you are back at school, and the the groups are looking for new members, what clique would fit you well?  Eww, yuck, now there’s an awful thought.  I guess whichever was geekiest.
  • What is your best music genre of all time?  80’s pop
  • You find yourself with a difficult decision – you are to be abandoned on an island in the middle of nowhere and are allowed five items only – what do you take and why?  So I’m assuming there’s no wi-fi in the middle of nowhere…  In which case, paper, pen, toilet paper, matches, and marshmallows.
  • How do you spend your free time?  On my computer writing and reading blogs
  • How many hours sleep a night do you need?  8-9 optimally
  • How many hours sleep a night do you actually get??  Usually 5-7.
  • If you were in an ultimate position of power and the leeway to do three profound things – what would you do?  Since absolute power corrupts absolutely, probably something not very nice.  Perhaps banish stupid people to an island with nothing but bowls of bugs to eat…
  • Have you ever danced in the rain or tangoed in Paris?  Neither, alas, but maybe I need to rethink my bucket list
  • What question do you most positively, absolutely hate to answer?  Anything related to what I do for work.  Refer back to the Back The Fuck Off t-shirt.
  • What are three of your most favourite words?  onomatopoeia, cockamamie, and   a new favourite is hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia
  • What are three of your least favourite words?  panties (I don’t know why it bugs me so much, but it does) and words used by young whippersnappers these days that make me feel old because I don’t know what they mean, like “lit” and “woke”.


Questions from Topics With Passion:

  • Why did you start blogging?  I had quite a bit of time on my hands and was feeling aimless, so I thought blogging would be therapeutic.  And it has been!
  • If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?  I don’t know that I’d do anything right away.  Right now there’s nothing buy-able that I can see creating a major positive change in my life.  I’d be more interested in saving it so I’d have long-term financial security.  Yes, I’m boring, and I’m okay with that 😉
  • What is the worst purchase you ever made?  Not sure, but maybe the ski pass I ended up hardly using at all.  Or the cumulative amount of clothing I bought and rarely wore.
  • If you were given a one-minute ad slot during the Super Bowl that you couldn’t sell, what would you fill it with?  Guinea pigs playing.  Guinea pigs dancing while riding on the backs of llamas, followed by a yak doing the funky chicken.
  • What fictional place would you most like to go?  Green Gables, as in Anne of Green Gables.  I loved how creatively she named all the little backwoods nooks and crannies.


Come on, you know you want to answer a few – that’s what the comments section is for!


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It’s G2K (Get 2 Know) day over at Revenge of Eve.  Today’s questions are:

  • Who has always stood by your side?  My family, even when I haven’t necessarily wanted then there.
  • What year were you born?  1979
  • Where were you born?  In a small town of about 4000 people in British Columbia, Canada.
  • When is your birthday?  It’s in March.  Yes, this is another evasive response, but I don’t trust the internet!
  • How many siblings do you have?  I have one younger brother.
  • Why is mental health important?  I’m not sure who originally came up with this line, but there’s no health without mental health.

Journal prompt: Write a thank you letter to the person who has stood by your side.

I’m going to keep this short and sweet:

Dear Grandma:  Thanks for always thinking I’m absolutely perfect no matter what!

❤️ Ashley


To participate:

  • Create a post answering the above questions.
  • Title your post G2K
  • Use the header image as your image.
  • Use #g2k in your post settings
  • Create a pingback linking you to this post.
  • Write the journal prompt in your private journal or on your post.

Real Neat Blog Award

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Life Is Too Short Lick the Spoon and Being Bipolar, Trying to Break the Stigma have nominated me for the Real Neat Blog Award.  Thank you so much!!!

The Rules:

  1. Put the award logo on your blog.
  2. Answer 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
  3. Thank the people who nominated you, linking to their blogs.
  4. Nominate any number of bloggers you like, linking to their blogs.
  5. Let them know you nominated them (by commenting on their blog etc.)

Questions from Life Is Too Short Lick the Spoon:

  1. Where do most visits to your blog come from?  The most come from the United States, but also I’ve had visitors from some rather random countries including Mongolia
  2. What is your favourite sport?  I’m not that keen on doing sports, but my favourite sport to watch is hockey.
  3. What has been a special moment for you so far in 2018?  The time I’ve spent with my Grandma, who’s 101 years old.
  4. What is your favourite quote? One of my favourites is from Nelson Mandela:“Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up.”
  5. What was your favourite class when still at school? I quite liked dissecting things in high school biology, which is maybe a bit gross, but I’m a science geek.
  6. Anything you had wished to have learned earlier?  That I should not stick around when people treat me like crap.
  7. What musical instrument have you tried to play?  I tried learning the flute on my own and managed to do not too bad.  I think that wood-frame apartment/condo buildings are a very bad place to learn to play instruments… there’s been many a time when I wanted to track down whoever was learning to play the violin and smack them over the head with it!

Questions from Being Bipolar:

  1. If you only had one book that you could take with you, which one would that be?  Probably Pride and Prejudice.  I’ve read it many, many times and still enjoy each re-read.  Elizabeth Bennett is so delightfully feisty!
  2. What are the positive aspects of blogging according to you?  Blogging has given me a sense of connectedness that I haven’t been able to find in the “real world”.
  3. Do you find writing therapeutic?  Absolutely.  Preparing a post helps me to find more clarity, and I get great input from my readers.
  4. Do you believe writing is the best vector to translate your thoughts?  I express myself best when I have the time to think over what I want to say, and I’m not a visually artistic person, so yes, writing works well for me.
  5. What do you enjoy reading the most?  I like to be exposed to a variety of different ideas, experiences, and viewpoints, and I like reading things I can learn things from, whether that be factual information or personal experience.
  6. What do you wish the most to accomplish with your blog?  I don’t really have any concrete goals; mostly I just want to keep being able to interact with people in the blogging world.
  7. Besides writing, what is/are your other(s) passion(s)?  Because of my depression I have a hard time being passionate about much of anything, but travelling is something that’s always been very important to me.

My nominees:  Please don’t feel pressured to do an award post.  Mostly I just like being able to point out to people some of the cool blogs I’m following.  You can pick from among any of the questions that I was asked by Lick The Spoon and Being Bipolar.

Again, thanks so much to Life Is Too Short Lick the Spoon and Being Bipolar, Trying to Break the Stigma for the nominations.  I hope everyone will check out the blogs I’ve linked to on this post, because they’re fabulous 🙂


Revenge of Eve's Get 2 Know G2K

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Revenge of Eve is sending What’s Your Favorite (#wyf) off to happy retirement land, and the SS G2K is chugging out of the harbor.

Get 2 Know

Who does the cleaning in your home?  I live alone, so either I do it or it doesn’t get done!

What pets do you have? I have 5 guinea pigs.

When did you have your first boyfriend/girlfriend?  Not til I was 22.  I had some short flings before that, but at 22 was the first actual boyfriend.

Where do you live?  Vancouver, Canada.

How did you decide on your career?  I always wanted to work in health care.  I studied pharmacy first because that’s what my residence advisor was studying when I was in first year.  I decided it wasn’t what I wanted to do with my life, and around the time I was set to graduate from my pharmacy a friend of mine was studying nursing and really liking it, so that’s how I fell into nursing.  Clearly I’m pretty suggestible.

Why do you blog?  I find both writing and engaging with the blogging community to be very therapeutic.

To Participate:

  • Create a post answering the above questions
  • Title your post G2K
  • Create a pingback, linked to this post
  • Use the hashtag #g2k in your post settings
  • Use the image as your header image

Liebster Award

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I was nominated for the Liebster award by A Guy Called Bloke and Doodlepip’s AdventuresBipolar Barb, and Being Bipolar.  Yippee, it’s time to play!



Rules:  This version of the Liebster Award has five rules. They are:

  1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.
  2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  4. Ask them 11 questions.
  5. Let them know you have nominated them.

 Questions from A Guy Called Bloke round 1:

1. What breaks and never falls and what falls and never breaks? dawn and water
2. A farmer had 752 sheep and took one shot that got them all. How did he do it?  Some crazy Russian 190-proof vodka.
3. What’s your favourite morning drink?  tea with milk, no sugar
4. What is your favourite number plus 16 times 5 minus 7?  That would depend on if you do those calculations sequentially or if 16×5 is calculated first.  Ah, memories of math class…
5. Well done, you have made it onto the local baseball team, which position are you? The person drinking cider out of a water bottle in the dugout.
6. What will your favourite colour resemble once you have added pink, green and orange? I feel like I had that outfit in neon when I was a kid in the 80’s.
7. All-time favourite sweet/candy’ … why?  Reese’s peanut butter cups, and if you need to ask why then that’s just a whole other issue.
8. You are offered a meal out at a restaurant of your choice, what do you pick?  A local chain called White Spot that has yummy burgers.  Simple pleasures…
9. Who comes first? A close friend in need or a distressed family member? That wound depend on my non-existent magic eight-ball.
10. If animals could talk – who would be the rudest species?  Camels.  They’re grumpy motherfuckers.
11. Which is the best head wear style to date?  If you’re not Canadian you might have to Google this, but the combo of hockey helmet and Jaromir Jagr’s mullet.  Gets me tingly all over just thinking about it.

Questions from a Guy Called Bloke round 2:

  1. When wearing socks, which foot do you dress first?  That depends whether the foot is being dressed in slippers or sky high heels.
  2. If we count sheep to fall asleep, what do they count?  Guinea pigs.
  3. Why do we HAVE to keep up with the Joneses?  I would like to throw rubber chickens at the Jones.
  4. What is the ‘secret of success?’  Big Mac sauce.
  5. What would be better than the fountain of youth?  The fountain of chocolate.
  6. How much do you exercise and does it help?  Does lifting cup of tea to mouth count?
  7. Why do they say ‘drown your sorrows’ – what happens if they can swim?  They might be able to swim, but depending on how massive the shitstorm is, those poor buggers might not make it.
  8. How do we truly know that the world we live in is the real one and that we are NOT just the finger tip of some giant?  I’d be more inclined to think a wart on said giant’s ass.
  9. If you had one week left of life as we know it, how would you live it?  I would eat and drink the most unhealthy yummy things I could come up with.
  10. Jolly Green Giant and the Big Friendly Giant are fighting over beans, who is going to win.  The Friendly Giant.
  11. … and why?  Because he would lull the other two into such a peaceful state that they’d hand the beans right over.

Questions from Bipolar Barb:

  1. What is your favorite holiday, and why?  The one that I happen to work and get paid double time for.
  2. Do you prefer to travel or stay close to home?  These days I prefer to not leave my cave.
  3. What’s in your fridge?  Well, what’s maybe kind of gross in my fridge is fish sauce that’s been in there for a whole lotta years.  I figure there’s so much salt and chemical stuff in there that it’ll last until the end of time.
  4. How many e-mail addresses do you have? 2 work, 1 blog, 1 alumni, and 3 personal.
  5. Do you have any siblings? How many?  One younger brother.  He’s 3 years younger but he’s more millennial and I’m more gen-x (I think those are the right terms, but I’m kinda out to lunch about that sort of thing).
  6. What is one thing you cannot live without? copious amounts of water
  7. Do you like to cook? yes but I’m lazy at the same time
  8. Would you rather lose an arm or a leg?  That would depend on whether I could choose which arm
  9. What is your favorite thing about summer?  Sun, sun, and more sun!
  10. If you won $1 million playing the lottery, what would you do?  Save it.  Sounds boring, but if my genetics have anything to do with it I’m not dying anytime soon.
  11. Where did you grow up?  Oliver, a little town of around 4000 in western Canada.  Now they have good wineries there, but back in the day there was sweet bugger all.


Questions from Being Bipolar:

  1. If you could do it again, would you choose the same path or take another one?  I would be living in a yurt in Kyrgyzstan married to a yak.
  2. What sort of music do you like?  Mostly pop, i guess.  Although I suppose in the yurt it’ll be the snuffly noises of the yak.
  3. Do you see the glass half full or empty? It varies, but mostly empty.
  4. What is your passion? I think my passion got run over by Kim Jong Un’s secret green train.
  5. Do you have a “bucket list”?  I did, and it consisted of travel destinations.  But it will be no longer required once I’m living in yurtland.
  6. Is creating something concrete or abstract, therapeutic for you?  I think it’s most helpful when I try to fit my mental diarrhea in some sort of more concrete form.
  7. If you could take only one book with you, which one would it be?  I feel like I should pick something profound, but instead I’m going to go with Pride and Prejudice.
  8. Does the weather affect your moods?  Yes, to some extent.  When it’s dark and rainy for days on end it’s hard to see any glimmer of light.
  9. Are you more of a cat or dog person?  I am a guinea pig person!
  10. Do you have a tendency to drive fast or slow?  Fast.  I’m lucky I’ve only ever gotten a few speeding tickets.
  11. What is your most meaningful dream?  I rarely remember my dreams, so I think my most meaningful is probably locked away in my subconscious.


My nominees: I hope you’ll join in the fun, but no pressure!  Feel free to pick whatever questions were posed to me that grab your attention the most.


Thanks again to A Guy Called Bloke and Doodlepip’s Adventures, Bipolar Barb, and Being Bipolar for the nominations.  I had fun with this one 🙂

There’s Glory in Sharing Your Story

“There’s Glory in Sharing Your Story” is an anti-stigma campaign started by Sue at My Loud Bipolar Whispers… hope for Mental Health Month this May.  I love this idea, and I wanted to jump right in and share my story:

My name’s Ashley, and I write under my first and middle name, ashleyleia, on my blog Mental Health @ Home.  I live in Vancouver, Canada, and I’m a mental health nurse and proud guinea pig mama.  I was first diagnosed with major depressive disorder in 2007.

When I first got sick, I refused to admit it to myself.  Once it became too obvious to ignore, I thought I should be able to deal with it myself, since that’s what I did for a living.  After my first suicide attempt, I managed to come up with the “right” (aka wrong) things to say to keep myself from being admitted to the psych ward.  After a second suicide attempt, though, I did end up hospitalized.  I had so much self-hatred, shame, and guilt at that time, a lot of which was tied into self-stigma.  I fought the treatment team every step of the day, and while electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) helped somewhat, overall it was a very negative experience.  Several months after discharge I had another suicide attempt and then stopped taking medication, but still I managed to achieve full remission.

Almost four years later, I had a recurrence of my illness.  It came out of nowhere, and within a few weeks of developing symptoms I ended up in hospital.  The next year and a half were rough, with a suicide attempt and two more hospitalizations.  I achieved full remission again, but it was a tenuous hold on wellness.  My most recent recurrence was triggered in spring 2016, and I continue to have symptoms.  Full remission is beginning to look less and less likely.

It was difficult initially to shift my sense of identity from being a “normal” person to being a person with a mental illness, and also a mental health nurse with a mental illness.  What has helped the most in integrating that new identity has been opening up about my illness.  I’ve faced stigma, primarily from my employers, but I’ve also gotten a lot of support.  And talking about my mental illness has allowed me to add yet another role identity: advocate.

Where I believe I’ve had the most impact in sharing my story has been with my patients (a term I use to describe a role identity rather than the person as a whole). It has served to reduce the power differential and sense of “us versus them”, allowing me to be more effective and empathetic as a nurse and allowing my patients to feel respected and understood.  I support my patients in raising their own voices to stand up for themselves and their choices, because I have experienced firsthand how devastating it can be to have choice taken away.

It’s important for our society to accept that mental illness can and does happen to anyone.  For that to happen, we as a community of people living with mental illness need to raise our voices.  Research has shown that the best way to challenge mental illness stigma is for people to be exposed to individuals with mental illness (if you’re interested in finding out more about this, google Patrick Corrigan, who’s done significant research in this area).  Yet that only works if we make ourselves known as people with mental illness.

Speaking up is not necessarily something that will feel right, safe, appropriate, or doable for all people at all times.  And that’s completely ok; it just means the rest of us have to speak a little bit louder.

To find out how to join in and share your story, visit Sue’s post How to write and share your story for “There’s glory in sharing your story”.